My Brand.

Let me just say, I don’t bend when it comes to my brand. My government name is attached to it and I will not sully that. Initially in my career I was a little overzealous when it came to releasing a book, I just wanted to see my name in lights so to speak, and as a result I agreed to something I shouldn’t have, then regretted it later. To the person reading this, DO NOT BEND WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR BRAND. Like I stated earlier, your name is associated with it. Some folks take advantage of the fact that you are new to the industry and don’t know much and therein lies the problem.

There are plenty of predator’s in this industry that are waiting in the wings to pounce and gobble of the ones that are naïve and are like I was, eager to see their name in print. I tell anyone who asks, know what you want, do your research, don’t compromise on your ‘ask’ that is to say what it is you expect from the person or company you could possibly be working with.

A saying I really like is the most important person in any scenario is YOU. Why do I say this, it’s because you are the one that’s striving to accomplish something. Whether it’s the publishing aspect or even in marketing. Your hard work, blood, sweat and tears are being offered up in this. So, look before you leap. That’s it for now, until next time. Where love resides-Temari

The Fear of Failure

Someone once said, it doesn’t matter how many times you fall it’s whether you get back up and once you do, what comes after. I like that because at some point in everyone’s life they’re going to do just that. But to have the strength to get back on your feet is where the power is.

Through my journey from blogger to writer to published author hasn’t been easy; far from it. It was filled with hills, valleys, bumps, and bruises but I wouldn’t trade what I do for anything in the world, I love it so much. Where else do you get to sit at a desk with a laptop, PC, tablet, phone, tape recorder or notebook and build a story?

But most will never do it because if the fear of failure. That’s going to happen whether we want it or not. Even the great Stephen King has had some duds, he told me so himself. Myself, I’ve had many and that doesn’t mean I’m going to quit, because I still have something to say.

When I started my journey to becoming me I had one character that stayed with me throughout. One I couldn’t shake until I finally told his story. It’s funny because another author told me she hears the voices of her characters in her head pushing her to bring them to life. And even though all writers know the first draft is always crap once the words land on papers, it gets better with time. In my previous post, I explained how I became a writer and how the words of three authors helped shape me into what I am today.

But one thing I didn’t discuss was the fear of failure. I know deep down everyone has it, no matter who they are. But we never give up, no matter how tough things get. Nope. It’s not in us to throw in the towel. And even the ones who’ve disappeared from social media due to bulling or some other reason, I believe they still write. I say this because the the words never disappear, they never go away. Why, because life still exists and because of that the need to tell the stories remain. Now whether we choose to let others read it is another matter.

Now getting back to the topic at hand, the fear of failure. No matter who we are it’s something that remains in the back of our minds. If we allow others to influence our actions is another matter. So if you’re reading this and thinking of not writing that book, I say do it anyway. What have you got to lose? Who knows it might turn out to be something really great. But it won’t happen unless you do it. That’s it for now, until next time, where love resides-Temari.

The Difference Between Me and You

Let me just say I don’t do petty and refuse to jump on anyone’s bandwagon. Last year around this time I lost several social media friends whom I thought were decent people. Ones I supported in some way shape or form and who turned on me because of an assumption. And I thought they knew me better than that, oops my mistake. Anyway, getting back to the topic at hand which is the reason for this post, is the difference between me and other people is I’m not gonna turn on you because we don’t share the same beliefs or dance to the same drummers beat. I’m not made that way. But if you’re reading this and you fit into the mold of following others blindly without knowing all the facts, then two chances to one, we don’t need to be friends or even acquaintances. And that’s all I have to say about that. I don’t need that kind of thinking in my circle. There’s a saying I like that goes, the door to loyalty swings both ways. If they don’t return it, they don’t deserve it.

I’ve always been good at reading people and I can tell whether or not you’re on my side or just tolerate my presence because you have an ulterior motive. Which is why I steer clear of people pretend to be in my corner because they have a hidden agenda. I happen to think my self worth is more than having a bunch of people around just to stroke my ego or make me feel important. I came into this world alone and I’m leaving that way. I want people in my life that will help me grow as a writer, not get upset because I’m not swayed by popular opinion. Oftentimes it’s better to stick with what isn’t popular, or your life might just depend on it, literally.

So, in closing the difference between me and others, is my world doesn’t revolve around the superficial or fake. I’m not a bandwagon type of person and my self worth doesn’t depend on how many people like me or pretend to. I’ve always been a loner and pave my own path and never followed the crowd. Someone once said, if your self worth depends on superficial things then you aren’t worth much at all. I happen to think I’m worth a lot more than a bunch of fake individuals. That’s the difference between me and you. Until next time, where love resides-Temari

Stormy Weather

There’s a saying that goes, in each ones life some rain must fall. No truer words were ever spoken. But despite that, one must be positive and always hope for the best no matter what. Myself even as jaded as I am I try to see the positive in everything because it’s no sense in walking around with your head down. Why not look at it this way, somebody somewhere didn’t wake up and you did.

I try to go through life thinking something good is about to happen. And even if it doesn’t there’s always tomorrow. I’m reminded of this cartoon character on the show the Flintstones called Bad Luck Sleprock everywhere this guy went things just fell apart. But he still kept moving and his head up no matter what the circumstances. Think of it this way, it’s like my hubs always reminds me, somebody somewhere wishes they were in your shoes. Which is true, so I release a calming breath and get on with achieving my goals. So if you’re reading this and thinking it’s the end of the world, it isn’t. The sun will come out tomorrow. Until next time-where love resides-Temari

My Words Are Weapons

Before I officially became an author I used to write little stories and store them inside a shoebox. And even though they were absolute crap I held on to them because I knew one day I’d get the courage to build them into something more. The moment I actually knew what I wanted to do was while leafing through a magazine and I saw this article about writing. It featured authors William Cosby, Kurt Vonnegut and Erika Jong entitled: The Power of The Printed Word. These three best selling authors were asked about how difficult is it to come up with material for their books? And even though each had a different story to tell, they all agreed on one thing, there’s power in the printed word. It can make you feel a whole gambit of emotions from happy to mad in zero point three seconds. And that stuck with me until this day. They also addressed the creativity aspect of it also and how simply writing is hard and oftentimes words don’t come easy. There are sleepless nights, thoughts and ideas running around in our heads some good and some junk. But I will tell you this, I’d never trade one minute of what I do for anything in the world.

I once interviewed an author about her work and something she said resonated with me. Even if she never sold another book she’d still write because there were still stories to tell and things needing to be said. And I like that because I feel the exact same way. It doesn’t matter if I get a three star review or even a five star, I’ve still got a lot to say and I’m going to say it! Recently the question was asked, why do you write? And I said because of the power of the printed word, and that’s true. The person born with a talent they are meant to use will find their greatest happiness in using it.

There’s a saying I like that states ‘I think new writers are too worried that it has all been said before. Sure it has, but not by you.’ Writers have an amazing super power, they create portals out of mere words and when you step through you’re visiting a world that exists in someone’s mind. So if you’re reading this and you have a story simmering inside you, I say go ahead and let it out because someone needs to read what you’ve got to say. Until next time, where love resides-Temari