There is nothing wrong with clapping for yourself and celebrating even the smallest achievements in your life. Why, because if you don’t do it who will? I have learned from experience that folks are so busy being jealous of one another that they will NOT congratulate you or anyone else on a job well done.
I for one don’t feel in the least bit envious when someone I know reaches a monumental plateau or receives an award for their accomplishments, because it gives me hope that I too if I put in the hours and the work will get there as well.
But in life, there’s always somebody who thinks it’s wrong to quote ‘toot your own horn’. That you’re being a braggart or cocky. I don’t happen to agree. We must all celebrate our accomplishments because there will come a time when none of us will be able to. So if you’re reading this and you’ve done something you’re proud of or even stepped out of your comfort zone to do it, go ahead and dance that jig or give yourself a high five; you deserve it. That’s it for now. Until next time, where love resides-Temari
Who doesn’t love to dive into a really great book? I know I do. And thanks to the authors I read and support I get to do just that. I’m so glad that there’s a day where we get to shine a spotlight on such an undervalued craft. I think if there were no books in the world and the wide variety of genres then what would we do, how would we get to escape and still remain in our favorite reading spot?
There’s an E.B White quote I like that goes, “Booke are good company, in sad times and happy times, for books are people- people who have managed to stay alive by hiding between the covers of a book.” No truer words were ever spoken. I remember as a teenager my favorite author was James Michener because he wrote about far-off places that I could only dream about going to like, Hawaii, Alaska, and Space! And though he’s no longer with us, his stories remain with us and still stand the test of time.
And when I decided I wanted to be an author, too join the ranks of my contemporaries and wrote about far-off places and fictional towns and the people that live in them, allowing my imagination to just spill onto the pages. Books to me are lifesavers for the lonely, the broken-hearted, and the hopeful, like me. So, the next time you meet one of your favorite authors, thank them for bringing their imaginations to life and enriching your world, because I sure do. That’s it for now until next time, where love resides-Temari
As someone who has been with the same man for close to forty years and married thirty-eight, I wondered do people who have been with their spouse or significant other for a long period of time do they still have a quote ‘Date Night’? Speaking for someone who makes sure our busy lives don’t interfere with our dynamic as a couple. So, at least one day out of the week we have a ‘date night’ or a ‘date day’.
It’s important that we don’t get so set in our routine as a married couple because that’s when things start to get stale and after a while. When I had the dreaded ‘Day Job’ my husband would meet me for lunch and spend at least an hour with me. I have found that when you don’t take the time out for one another, you become strangers.
So if you’re reading this and thinking, ‘That’ll never happen to us’ trust me, it will eventually. Because it happened to us. But I took steps to change it and things have been so much better. We laugh, talk, and joke with one another and just that little bit has made our relationship stronger. Even little things such as asking how their day went can go a long way. At least they know you care because you thought enough to ask and so the conversation begins. And that’s just my two cents. That’s it for now, until next time, where love resides-Temari
Let me just say, there’s nothing more important than seeing to the wellbeing of oneself. Despite what some may think, we are not related to the energizer bunny. We need rest, water, fun, recreational time and self-care.
Oftentimes a lot of us lose sight of that because we’re too busy living our professional and family lives. Whether you be a business owner an entrepreneur, or work for someone else, you will eventually get rundown and need to rest or else you’ll suffer a heart attack. I have personally experienced that because I did not take time out to look out for myself. To do things that are non-work related or having to do with taking care of others as oppose to me. And because of that I nearly suffered a nervous breakdown and ended up in the hospital. I’m telling you, you do not want to be in that situation because it could lead to some serious issues.
It’s time you realize that there is nobody more important then you and you cannot look out for the people or things you are responsible for if you aren’t at your best. My friend Yalanda founder of the Feed Your Dreams room on Clubhouse and gourmet soap maker often asks the question: Did you shower today? And myself, I post thought provoking quotes for my followers and mostly for myself because sometimes I need reminding that I am an important part of this world as are they.
The reason she asks this is because a lot of us are so busy being everything to everyone, self-care is not even on our agenda. Something as simple as a shower or bubble bath can be a big help not just hygiene-wise it can actually help you recharge. Nobody should be too busy to do something for themselves that doesn’t include someone else. It’s not selfish, it’s making sure you taken care of as well. You cannot give one -hundred percent if you aren’t.
If you’re reading this and like me you’ll say, “I don’t have time to take a break, let alone sleep” You’d better or you might just regret it. That’s it for now. Until next time, where love resides-Temari
According to experts there are ten fears that people face. 1. Failure. 2. Inadequacy 3. Leadership 4. Competition 5. Embarrassment 6.selling 7. People 8. Futility 9.Self and 10. Success.
Earlier today in the Feed Your Dreams room the following questions were asked of the panel: Which fear causes you to lower your voice? That is to say, makes you afraid of doing any particular thing on your list. i.e bucket or something to help further your career or life goals. They also say that everyone has a voice and how it should sound. Whether it’s brought forth in boldness, subtilty or not at all. How much does the silence of your voice cost you; to you and others? Can you afford to stay silent any longer?
What would be the reason you believe your voice is or isn’t enough? Or have you been told something that makes you believe one or the other or perhaps both? If you had to give advice to yourself in the past or present or even to a dear friend or family member experiencing what you did six months to two years ago, as associate d with the relief that your voice gives, what would that advice be? What are they desperate to know in that area and what advice would you give them? Is there a ‘sweet spot’ that you possess with your voice? How do you use your voice where you feel confident, competent and in your comfort zone?
In case you’re wondering what my answers to these questions were, I can honestly say, I have learned to not worry about my voice and how it sounds or is portrayed to others. There’s a saying I like that goes, ‘You have this one life. How do you wanna spend it? Apologizing? Regretting? Questioning? Hating yourself? Dieting? Running after people who don’t see you? Be brave. Believe in yourself. Do what feels good. Take risks. You have this one life, why be afraid to live it? Why be silent? You have only one voice, why not use it. Make yourself proud.’ That’s all for now, where love resides-Temari
I was raised to give everyone the benefit of the doubt until the time comes not to. Through the years I’ve met people who have become lifelong friends and confidants and others I could have done without meeting in the first place.
The reason I say this is due to the fact that everyone we meet has an agenda for inserting themselves into your life. Whether it’s to keep an eye on what you’re doing or just to be plain nosy. I have a personal motto which is, ‘Don’t Trust Anybody’. The reason being is everyone has an ulterior motive. I don’t care who they are, there’s always some underlying reason for them hitching themselves on to your wagon, so to speak.
No matter what it is, you should always feed these folks with a long spoon until you are certain they aren’t there for something other than wanting to encourage or help you grow or gain ground in your quest. I’d stated in a previous post that I wasn’t a quote ‘bandwagon’ type of person. I hate following the fold.
I honestly have no need for the ‘cliques’, ‘clubs’, ‘Mobs’ or ‘Groups’. I prefer my own company and would rather be around my animals. At least they don’t hope to gain something from me other than love, affection and or food.
I’m not naïve to think that everyone is perfect or without spot or wrinkle. Let’s face it, we all have our smudges. All I’m saying is, keep your eyes peeled and don’t take anything at face value. Ask questions, poke around until you learn what they’re really after.
There’s an old school rap song I like that says, ‘Friends will let you down, friends won’t be around when you need them most of all your friends. Friends are hard to find, friends like yours and mine, talk about your friends.’ Be careful folks because there are a lot of wolves in sheep’s clothing who are after whatever it is you got. Whether it’s to steal, kill or destroy. Until next time, where love resides-Temari.
Let me start off by saying, I have nor have I ever been a quote ‘bandwagon’ type of gal. Why because when your let to something blindly, you tend to get caught up in a kind of net that is hard to get out of. Take all of these new social media platforms, like Linkedin for example, this was something that’s existed for a very long time. And it seems everyone and their momma is on it, I wasn’t. Not until 2018 when I finally broke down and joined. Why? Because I was looking for a former classmate and I figured he’d be on there and I was right. Once I connected with him I kept it moving due to the fact that I did what I needed to do.
Until I found out that it could be used for more than just searching for someone. You can get business connections, touch base with other authors and small business owners, editors, advertisers etc. And I must admit, I am happy I jumped on this particular bandwagon. The other was Clubhouse, initially I was skeptical about even this, because it was just another app to gum up my phone and IPAD. Well, I am happy to say I was wrong, it isn’t. In just the few months I’ve been on I have connected with so many awesome men and women in the literary community. Whether it’s authors, editors, radio and blog hosts and even a few influencers. Who have lit a fire under my lazy, procrastinating butt and I am just so grateful for them all. Just being amongst these folks I have discovered things I had no idea existed. I suppose I have been under the proverbial rock. LOl! Anyway, I’m a member of a group of elite men and woman and I ain’t going nowhere! So, if you’re like me and are skeptical about joining any of the platforms that are out there, pick one you’re comfortable with and stick with it until you’re ready to move to the next. That’s it for now, until next time. Where love resides-Temari
First let me just say, yes, there is a such thing as ‘writer’s block’. And although a lot of authors don’t believe such a thing exists, trust me it does. It’s been dancing the jig around me for days; if I had a gun it would be deader than a door nail. Lol! I don’t know why I can’t seem to get these books finished. But the words only seem to come out in spurts. A few months ago, I attended a webinar with author Allie Pleiter, she was awesome let me tell you. She spoke about this system she created called the Chunky Method, which is writing in blocks at a time and you keep at it, taking one day at a time until your project is complete. So far it’s working out great for me, but lately not so much. I think what I need to do is to step back and focus on something else that’s non-writing, perhaps that will do the trick until the words start to flow again. I’m sure if you’re reading this you’re probably one of those people who don’t believe anything prevents a person from completing a project, that it’s all in our head. That maybe, but I don’t think so, because I hear the voices of my characters on the regular. They’re always speaking to me, even when I don’t want them to. But lately I suppose I’ve been tuning them out, hence the reason for my problem. Anyway, I’m determined to beat said issue and finish these two books, before I move on to the next. Wish me luck because I’m gonna need it. Until next time, where love resides-Temari
Today I officially turned sixty years old and to celebrate I opened my first Clubhouse room to celebrate. Despite inviting tons of people, only a handful actually showed up and even though it was a good room I don’t feel like it was a swimming success and it’ll probably be a one and done. Why? Because getting any kind of support where I am concerned is like a visit to the dentist, painful.
It’s not to say I didn’t appreciate the ones that did show up, I did. It’s just that I refuse to put myself through that ever again. As the singer Carly Simon said, ‘I haven’t got time for the pain.’ Anyway, on a bright note, I received tons of birthday wishes, phone calls, flowers, money and even one from my favorite pro wrestlers Cody Rhodes. So all is right with the world and the sun will come out tomorrow. Until next time, where love resides-Temari
Let me just say, Monday when Facebook, Instagram and others were down, folks were going nuts. Do Not Run Your Business on social media. When you are ask if you want to log in using Facebook or Google accounts, DON’T. Do it the regular way and use your two-step login to protect your information.
I also wouldn’t recommend you not have all your eggs in one basket. Always have a backup. Start a website and email list to communicate with your circle, group etc for community management. Trust me when I say, you’ll be glad you did. Because relying on one platform is never good. It isn’t more work, it’s actually the same thing. When you post it goes to your page, group, etc just plug and play. I know a lot of folks were feenin for their Facebook fix; I wasn’t. Why, because I had elsewhere I could go. That’s it for now, until next time. Where love resides-Temari.